This morning D drove me to work and we stopped for coffee. Outside of the D.unkin D.onuts were a bunch of high school aged kids, mostly boys, who were apparently waiting for the school bus. While we were walking back to the car, one of them shouted at me, “Cutie, I wanna hit that” and then another, “Bruh, ya girl got a fat ass”. D was heated, but didn’t even honor their shouts with a response and I just gave them the ‘I’m old enough to be your mama, please act right’ look.
This kind of thing happens all too often, so I wasn’t surprised in any way. What I’m put off by though is the fact that they’ve been taught that acting that way is acceptable male behavior. Some where along the line they’ve been taught that being rude and extra forward to a woman is the definition of manhood. Sadly, I expect that type of behavior from somegrown men in their 20s and maybe early 30s, but I’m not sure when it became universally acceptable or sexy even. I’ve been approached by men of (virtually) all ages, and I’ve noticed that most of the older ones approach me and other women like they have some sense. They don’t say things like, “I wanna hit that” or other way off the wall stuff. It’s usally something more like, “Pardon me miss, you have a lovely smile. I’d love the chance to talk with you some more”.
Assuming that men teach their boys or that boys follow the examples of the men around them, how did these boys get the idea that “I wanna get in your jeans mama” works better than “Excuse me miss…”? Also, you don’t see too many older dudes disrespecting the man that a woman is out with, so why are the youngins doing it? You don’t see Willie the Catfish Fryer talking about, “Playa, I wanna get all up in your woman’s panty-drawers”. Don’t the kids know they could catch a few charges or fists to the face like that? You can try to blame their behavoir on hip hop videos, but the people in the videos had to get their ideas from somewhere also.
In the same breath, however you have to ask about the girls who actually respond to advances like that, they’re just as bad. Where are their mamas to tell them that when a man approaches you raunchy, he’ll continue to treat you that way?
Grown azz youngins, *sigh*. Look at me sounding like my mama–damn.