I know everyone’s heard about the drama last night with Chris Br.own (and Rih.anna) but I had to toss in my $.02. They’re waaay too young for all that mess (not that anyone is ever old enough), but stuff like this is happening to people younger and younger and it’s nothing short of disturbing.
If you’ve been a regular reader of this blog, you’d know I had the stuffing whooped out of me more than once by a boyfriend when I was about 15-16 years old. Dude was much older than me though (not that it makes it any better), and he thought I was older than I was. Thankfully I had the sense to press charges the second time, but being a sophomore in high school with restraining order papers in my bookbag wasn’t the business at all.
I’m seeing, by way of my high school aged nieces and nephews, that this ish goes on around them all the time. A lot of the girls think it’s cute when their dude hits them cuz it means he cares enough about her to put his hands on her. In their eyes I guess any attention is good attention. When you start telling them that dude’s a punk for hitting women, they get all defensive. By the time you get through to some of them, the self-worth is already down the drain. Unfortunate in every way.
I don’t know this kid’s situation–how he grew up and what would push him to that point, but it’s a sobering reminder that everyone is still human regardless of fame.