Statistics being what they are, I was already getting worried about the integrity institution of marriage but over the last few weeks as wedding season has come to a close, I’ve heard more than a few comments along these lines:
“If I change my (Faceb.ook) status from ‘married’ to ‘it’s complicated’ or ‘single’, that’ll make him listen”
“I can’t wait to get married so I can change my FB and let my ex see just how happy I am”
and this one from my coworker made me cringe:
“When I get married, I’m going to wear a t-shirt that says “Bride” for a few weeks after so I can keep getting all of the attention”
I’m all about different strokes for different folks and I know people approach making that hopefully lifelong commitment in different ways, but I’m truly worried that marriage is quickly becoming simply a status symbol. Not so much in the way that marrying a baller or becoming a trophy wife would be a status symbol, but moreso a status symbol like getting your driver’s license and car is when you turn 16. Just something to do because everyone else does it and you want to be one of the cool kids.
I’m not one of those people to protest to the government about how we need to better this country’s family values and make marriage count more. That’s not necessary and I also don’t think that marriage is for everyone. I’m just saddened that somewhere along the lines marriage went from something you work for and something sacred to something that’s as trivial as a FB status or bride T-shirt.
When D and I decided to get married, please believe I wasn’t worried about my ex seeing that my last name changed or making sure that everyone around me, down to the bagger at the grocery store knew that I am now MRS. some-damn-body. We appreciated, honored, and pondered the fact that our worlds would never be the same–from last name changes, to filing taxes, and the fact that in God’s eyes we’re a team till death before taking that step. I just wish more people would stop worrying about the wedding and worry about the marriage.
Yeah, it was kind of fun to go on FB and change my status and watch as D did the same, but I dunno…I’m just rambling now. You get what I’m saying. Hit me up in the comment box if you’d like.